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Starfishing

One upside to this dumpster fire of a political climate in both the USA (where I'm from) and the UK (where I live): my writer's brain has experienced a renaissance the likes of which I haven't seen since the late aughts. I'd completely abandoned fanfiction to focus on my marriage and my career as a makeup artist, but dude, I am BACK, and I'm going hard with the catharsis.

So...how are you lot?

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yeuxdebleu
Jun. 20th, 2017 12:37 am (UTC)
Gosh! Am I the only person to comment?

So how is married life treating you? Did you get married in the UK or back here? Where are you using your makeup artist skills?

As for me, lots of health problems now that I won't go into, but I'm still on this side of the dirt so it's better than the alternative.
glamoursnipe
Jun. 20th, 2017 04:36 am (UTC)
We got married in the UK, on May 24, 2016. :) I've had to put my makeup career on hold and work as a barista to pay the bills, and though I adore Paul, his parents are elitist, judgmental bellends who can't seem to forgive me for coming along and shaking up the family image. :lol:

I'm so sorry to hear about your health problems. :hugs: Considering how stressful it's been to exist lately, I can't imagine that's doing you any favours.
yeuxdebleu
Jun. 25th, 2017 03:27 am (UTC)
That's a bummer about the elitist, judgmental in-laws. I hope they come around in time. Had you met them before you and Paul got married?

Yeah, health problems really suck and getting old doesn't help. I have heart, lung, and kidney problems on top of degenerative disc disease in my lower back. Got all of this within two years. Ughh!
glamoursnipe
Jun. 25th, 2017 04:36 am (UTC)
Meh, those two aren't going to change. They get off on complaining about everything and everyone who isn't an exact replica of them, and no matter what they say or do, they think they're beyond reproach. The last straw was when they invited themselves to our house for the weekend, then proceeded to insult us for living in "appalling" conditions when I'd spent the whole day before they arrived in a cleaning fit that gave me a massive fibromyalgia flare. I told Paul, "I love you and I'm sorry if I took any of this out on you, but I'm just not here for their bullshit anymore. I don't go on their holidays, I don't host their visits to York, and as for Christmas...I can't get the time off work, anyway, so they can go straight to hell." Luckily, Paul is the opposite of his parents in terms of genuine compassion and understanding, so I am in the process of severing contact with them. One more holiday this summer because it was booked before what we'll call the final battle (I'll be spending 90% of it either on my own or with Paul one-on-one), and then...roll credits.

Oh, no. :'( That's the worst, when it comes on at once. My mom lost her ability to walk normally in a single morning, while my fibromyalgia has been the slowest burn ever. Yesterday Paul and I were talking about things we'd change about our parents and the first thing he said was, "I'd make your mum able to get around without a walker, and your dad stop having dizzy spells. Most of all, I'd go back in time and tell them not to take up smoking." Watching health deteriorate is the most depressing thing ever.

yeuxdebleu
Jun. 25th, 2017 04:52 am (UTC)
Yikes! They really do sound like the in-laws from hell. I'm glad Paul is standing by you. I agree that you should cut them off as much as possible.

This reminds me of the in-laws a friend of mine has in South Carolina. They are such snobs and act like they're still living on a grand plantation. But their son, who is married to my friend, is lovely and not like them at all. I can't stomach snobs and holier-than-thou types.

What caused your mother to lose her ability to walk so suddenly? I started smoking in college because it seemed like everyone was doing it. I stopped in 2007, but I guess it wasn't soon enough because I have early onset emphysema now. Smoking is so evil.
glamoursnipe
Jun. 26th, 2017 01:08 pm (UTC)
A bunch of discs slipped in her spine at once. They tried steroid injections and physical therapy, but in the end she had to have surgery. Basically there's a titanium centipede in her spine now. She's a cyborg. :)
yeuxdebleu
Jun. 27th, 2017 12:34 am (UTC)
oooh, ouch! I hope she's enjoying life now as the new bionic woman.
glamoursnipe
Jun. 25th, 2017 04:43 am (UTC)
And yeah, I'd met his parents before we got married. At first I thought them kind of stuffy, but tolerable. However, the more time I spent with them, the more ugliness, ignorance, and selfishness emerged. I don't know who influenced Paul to become such a global treasure, but I owe them my life.
yeuxdebleu
Jun. 25th, 2017 04:54 am (UTC)
I don't know who influenced Paul to become such a global treasure, but I owe them my life.

Praised be for that!
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